I don’t have ADHD, but my trick for introducing these chain-of-thought topics back into conversation is like this:
One degrees of separation: normal topic, can be added to conversation with no introduction
Two degrees of separation: “You mentioned ______, which made me think of _______”
More than two degrees of separation: Either don’t bother, or, if it’s really interesting, then wait for a good time and then hit 'em with "Hey guys, sorry to interrupt, this is kind of random but I just thought of… "
The issue is that the chain-of-thought is always at least 10 long and growing faster than you can speak or consciously keep up with. When you’re that deep in it, you’ve already forgotten what the first link in the chain was and how it relates to the conversation, or what the other person’s talking about entirely.
So it’s always don’t bother, “sorry what did you say?” or “here’s something random but super tangentially related but I can’t really explain why”
How does it work when you’re in a conversation with other ADHD people? Is it just as tough? Or do yalls conversations just go at a faster rate to keep up with a chains of thoughts? Sorry if I"m asking too much, just curious
Or do yalls conversations just go at a faster rate to keep up with a chains of thoughts?
Pretty much this + a de facto understanding that this shit happens and it feels less futile explaining the chain (or what you remember of it). And sometimes “how the fuck did we even get on this topic” becomes a fun minigame.
I don’t have ADHD, but my trick for introducing these chain-of-thought topics back into conversation is like this:
Works pretty well most of the time.
I do have ADHD.
The issue is that the chain-of-thought is always at least 10 long and growing faster than you can speak or consciously keep up with. When you’re that deep in it, you’ve already forgotten what the first link in the chain was and how it relates to the conversation, or what the other person’s talking about entirely.
So it’s always don’t bother, “sorry what did you say?” or “here’s something random but super tangentially related but I can’t really explain why”
How does it work when you’re in a conversation with other ADHD people? Is it just as tough? Or do yalls conversations just go at a faster rate to keep up with a chains of thoughts? Sorry if I"m asking too much, just curious
Pretty much this + a de facto understanding that this shit happens and it feels less futile explaining the chain (or what you remember of it). And sometimes “how the fuck did we even get on this topic” becomes a fun minigame.
Dang. Good idea. I just need to remember to do that