• neonred@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Complimenting the body does not imply neglecting wits. You are not only a body but your body is an inherent part of what and who you are.

    But I get the impression complimenting on physical attributes is frowned upon nowadays.

    • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      Of course complimenting fitness isn’t implying you’re only a body. But why do you compliment people in the first place? To make them feel nice. Let them know their good qualities don’t go unnoticed. And for that purpose it’s good to compliment a variety of nice qualities of theirs.

      The last bit, I honestly wouldn’t know. I haven’t gotten the impression, but that might just be my peer group.

    • Lemmilicious
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      4 months ago

      Complimenting the body is not meant to communicate neglected wits, but that doesn’t mean it never does. I had a friend who all their life received compliments for their body only, and not for anything about their personality. Even though I agree that their body was inherent part of who they were, it’s hard to blame them for feeling like their personality was bland and irrelevant, and that this feeling got reinforced by receiving more complements about their body.