I can clean the whole kitchen while also preparing dinner and dessert if my SO is in the kitchen, even if they’re not helping. But alone? Forget it. I’ll be lucky to remember the water kettle was on.
I’m like this for most things except for cleaning the kitchen. It’s essential to know she’s counting on me, but if she’s actually there I can’t do anything. It could have something to do with the layout of our kitchen (she has to stand behind me if I’m washing dishes).
If she was working on something at the table I could probably ignore her and focus on cleaning, but if she’s trying to clean too, I can’t.
Boy am I glad I’m not the only one. This describes me exactly. Having a partner nag me to get something done is like having a literal little devil on my shoulder and is often the motivation I need. Now with me and my own projects that she has no vested interest in, those sit and languish for days, weeks, months, years….
I just finished a book called How to keep house while drowning by KC Davis. It’s written for people with ADHD, autism, ptsd, handicapped, etc. anyone with challenges to getting things done, and this is one of the big themes in it, basically how to be kind to yourself. But there are lots of angles and tips and topics in there. Even witten in short, easy to read chapters. Should check it out.
The #1 thing that helps me is having a partner for whatever the thing is. If someone has the same goal as me, I will put 150% into getting it done.
But if the thing only benefits me? Well, then I’ll just go ahead and shoot myself right in the foot
Body doubling.
I can clean the whole kitchen while also preparing dinner and dessert if my SO is in the kitchen, even if they’re not helping. But alone? Forget it. I’ll be lucky to remember the water kettle was on.
I’m like this for most things except for cleaning the kitchen. It’s essential to know she’s counting on me, but if she’s actually there I can’t do anything. It could have something to do with the layout of our kitchen (she has to stand behind me if I’m washing dishes).
If she was working on something at the table I could probably ignore her and focus on cleaning, but if she’s trying to clean too, I can’t.
Boy am I glad I’m not the only one. This describes me exactly. Having a partner nag me to get something done is like having a literal little devil on my shoulder and is often the motivation I need. Now with me and my own projects that she has no vested interest in, those sit and languish for days, weeks, months, years….
(this is not a flex AT ALL) I am selfless to a fault. I care so little about my needs in comparison to others’ and I hate it
I just finished a book called How to keep house while drowning by KC Davis. It’s written for people with ADHD, autism, ptsd, handicapped, etc. anyone with challenges to getting things done, and this is one of the big themes in it, basically how to be kind to yourself. But there are lots of angles and tips and topics in there. Even witten in short, easy to read chapters. Should check it out.
I ll procrastinate to whether to shoot the right one or the left and not even get that done.