It’s probably easier said than done, but try to remember that they likely already find you attractive, or they wouldn’t have agreed to the date.

It looks like it’s for their immediate family. I had issues with this when I was supporting people I didn’t live with, but if they’re using the same PC, it shouldn’t be an issue until something breaks.

I use NixOS, Gentoo, and Debian:

• NixOS because I like declarative configuration files.
• Gentoo because I enjoy compiling from source.
• Debian because the other two are more difficult to use.

If it’s so easy, give it a try

Your style is something I’ve always wanted to learn, but I never knew where to start. There’s so much happening in your process that isn’t obvious when looking at the final image. Thanks for taking the time to explain it.

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I’m starting to run out of movies to choose from and wanted to branch out into other genres while still keeping it classic with a bit of romance. This one has magic and is supposed to be funny.

Nice, I’m looking forward to it

It’s basically reddit, but with more Linux users. You didn’t know?

Oh, yeah, I understand why. I just thought it’d look cooler if it were possible.

Yeah, that was intentional. I wanted him to hold the gourd, but the images never really came out right.

I’m glad you guys like it. I’m going to keep adding to it.

I actually found that book and managed to download a copy. I’ll start reading it tomorrow.

I’ve definitely noticed times when I’ve been in each of these states. I’ll give breaking things down into “Thoughts, Feelings, Behavior” a try too.

Thanks again for all the advice and information, it’s been really helpful!

Thanks, I use most of these techniques too. The bottom-up process you mentioned for writing is really helpful for a lot of things. I used to write documentation for work, and writing things down as if I were explaining them to someone else, like you suggested, is a great way to see things as a whole. I’ve started using a journal in the same way, just collecting my thoughts and trying to put them all together. Exercise has been a game changer. I’ve started running in the mornings and evenings, as well as lifting weights. I hate to admit it, but the exercise people were right lol

Yeah, same here. I was really impressed with it. I’ve been watching these movies without knowing much about them beforehand, and it was a nice surprise to discover this one.

I remember playing this one too

No, not really. I’m somewhat of a recluse. There have been specific people at work who have been on the receiving end, but unless I was unmuted or something, they would never know about it.

I feel things a little too strongly sometimes, but I’ve found something that helps. Another commenter shared this with me. I still don’t understand all of it, but I think the part about ignoring emotions is related to my issue.

I’ve started keeping a journal, and whenever I feel overwhelmed, I write down whatever I’m feeling. If I remember, I also try to practice mindfulness. It’s only been two days, but I’ve used the journal at least a dozen times, and I can practice mindfulness anytime.

It actually works. I’ve been silent all day almost.

I’m still learning about what they are, and I also have ADHD, which complicates things. I usually don’t pay attention to how I’m feeling, and until recently, I used to just react without really thinking. I was reading about ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and I can see that this is definitely contributing to my situation. It’s more about judgments and exclusions, and less about rejection and criticism. I don’t mind being made fun of; I just want to be accepted.

Sweatpants sound good too

Thank you. This is important, but I need to process it.

My situation is a little different, but it’s similar to the end of a long-term relationship, and I went through nearly all of what you’ve described. A few months have passed, and I feel like I’m nearing the end of whatever this is. I also reacted strongly to something insignificant, like a basketball, before I realized I needed to address it. If it’s not too personal, could you give an example of what you mean by signs of being in hypoarousal and hyperarousal? I’ve noticed situations where I’ll freeze up if I feel judged, and I’ve also caught myself stimming (rocking side to side in my chair when I’m overstimulated or stressed). I haven’t been officially diagnosed yet, but I no longer have any doubts that I’m on the spectrum.

Don’t apologize, I do the exact same thing, and I knew you didn’t want to reply unless it was high-quality. What you posted was perfect. Thank you.