Ten years after creating a new model for dating apps with its “women make the first move” feature, Bumble is opening the door to men starting conversations on the app.
One thing I’ll say about the old model was that out of all the dating apps, Bumble was the only one where every woman who I met or even just messaged with could hold a conversation. That one requirement of them reaching out first set the bar, and I knew they were making the choice to speak to me out of all the other guys they were drowning in. I ended up with more dates through Bumble than any other app, and even made great friends with some people I didn’t romantically click with. Online dating is awful, or was for me, but Bumble was the least awful one of the bunch. The new model sounds not so great.
To me it’s so so. They either texted, we had a conversation and ended up on a date the next week, or they sent a message, i answered, waited for a week to get a “lol”.
In my experience all the women do start with hi however 100% of them engaged with the conversation after that. It felt much better then getting a bunch of matches but most of them ignoring you(understandably).
The story I heard was 9/10ths of the women on the platform had “I don’t message first, you message me first” in their bio, so it was functionally a display case for morons.
Women hold conversations on every app? This feels like an extremely misogynistic take. I’ve literally never had a problem with women not being able to hold a conversation, like, some do and some don’t. It’s just an app and you aren’t entitled to people’s time.
You know I’ve never, or at least very rarely, used pick up lines or jokes to initiate conversations on dating apps and it’s been fine? It’s kind of the worst way to start an actual conversation IMHO but you do you. I never once mentioned jokes or pick up lines and it’s weird you brought it up lol
Pickup lines are worse than just saying hey, like wow you copy pasted a cliche from a Google search! What is she supposed to do with that? How is that a conversation?
It’s always so funny when people push these obvious self tells, like yeah you’re not going to be a good match with everyone so a lot of conversations die but as soon as someone starts blaming an entire gender for not being able to hold a conversation its a pretty clear sign they’re the problem.
One thing I’ll say about the old model was that out of all the dating apps, Bumble was the only one where every woman who I met or even just messaged with could hold a conversation. That one requirement of them reaching out first set the bar, and I knew they were making the choice to speak to me out of all the other guys they were drowning in. I ended up with more dates through Bumble than any other app, and even made great friends with some people I didn’t romantically click with. Online dating is awful, or was for me, but Bumble was the least awful one of the bunch. The new model sounds not so great.
I met my fiancée on Bumble 4 years ago, but I also created this from my experience on the app:
Sorry to embarrass you OP but it’s actually spelled “hay.” “Hey,” is an informal greeting.
No, it’s for horses 🐴
Haaaayyy gurrlll
Hay is for horses.
Hey is for horse girls.
That’s the joke?
Which of those girls is your fiancée?
Not pictured; she spared herself the shame by having an actually good opener that referenced something in my bio
This says way more about you than it does about the women on the app.
To me it’s so so. They either texted, we had a conversation and ended up on a date the next week, or they sent a message, i answered, waited for a week to get a “lol”.
really? I haven’t used Bumble myself but I’ve heard stories of guys with inboxes full of women just saying “hi”
Bots. Bots everywhere.
In my experience all the women do start with hi however 100% of them engaged with the conversation after that. It felt much better then getting a bunch of matches but most of them ignoring you(understandably).
The story I heard was 9/10ths of the women on the platform had “I don’t message first, you message me first” in their bio, so it was functionally a display case for morons.
Basically my experience
Look at Fabio over here.
Women hold conversations on every app? This feels like an extremely misogynistic take. I’ve literally never had a problem with women not being able to hold a conversation, like, some do and some don’t. It’s just an app and you aren’t entitled to people’s time.
Have fun complaining about women for not responding to your almost-certainly rancid-ass vibes lmao
I presume you regard what you just did to be “holding a conservation”?
Interesting theory! Thanks for sharing.
You: That’s mysogynistic
You: That’s mysogynistic
You know I’ve never, or at least very rarely, used pick up lines or jokes to initiate conversations on dating apps and it’s been fine? It’s kind of the worst way to start an actual conversation IMHO but you do you. I never once mentioned jokes or pick up lines and it’s weird you brought it up lol
Pickup lines are worse than just saying hey, like wow you copy pasted a cliche from a Google search! What is she supposed to do with that? How is that a conversation?
Ha big doenvotes from the incel faction.
It’s always so funny when people push these obvious self tells, like yeah you’re not going to be a good match with everyone so a lot of conversations die but as soon as someone starts blaming an entire gender for not being able to hold a conversation its a pretty clear sign they’re the problem.
YUP. So much defensiveness and bitterness in this thread. Of course, they’re not the problem it’s Women.