• Yurt_Owl@hexbear.net
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    5 个月前

    As someone who experienced pre and post tinder style online dating the matching “algorithm” is intended to make you feel awful in order to drive you to pay stupid sums for their crappy subs, boosts or whatever crap they have now.

    I can guarantee you are cool and good. The pre tinder era of online dating I met so many cool people and was chatting to multiple people a month and post the swipe nonsense it all dried up, years of nothing. The cool people i used to see vanished and I was instead matched with people I’d probably never talk to irl or what feel like bot accounts.

    Try not to let these sites change how you see yourself. Easier said than done I know but they don’t reflect who you are and never will.

    • charly4994 [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      5 个月前

      I had a similar experience back when OkCupid was not the tinder model, chatted up quite a few people, it never really got too far because I just didn’t pick up on anvil sized hints, but now with modern dating apps, I’ve basically accepted that I’ll be alone because wading into them is just psychological torture.

      • SoylentSnake [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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        5 个月前

        I’ve basically accepted that I’ll be alone because wading into them is just psychological torture.

        don’t buy into the idea that they’re the only way to meet people and give up on love, my good sweet comrade. yes it’s getting harder to find other avenues, but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist. and considering how many women seem to just opt out of the apps (what with the gender ratio being so skewed on the str8 side), i gotta think people are finding other ways to find love. (unless…more and more people are just giving up on love… sadness-abysmal)

        • Lerios [hy/hym]@hexbear.net
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          5 个月前

          unless…more and more people are just giving up on love… sadness-abysmal

          i hate to break it to you comrade, but as a zoomer, yeah. i went through 4 years of college and in that time i knew literally two (2) people who ever got into a relationship. now i’m graduated and i don’t know a single person with a partner. the only person i know who has any romantic contact at all is a gay male friend who goes on grinder hook ups.

          dating apps have always been too much hassle for me, but honestly i wouldn’t have the slightest fucking clue where to even start with the idea of meeting girls irl.

          • SoylentSnake [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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            5 个月前

            that is fucking deeply upsetting to ur millennial (and semi-recently single) comrade but fuck, if thats how it be thats how it be. but jesus christ that fucking sucks this world just keeps getting worse.