“I find it kind of funny, I find it kind of sad…”, what actually does people think toxic masculinity is? The one you’re replying to seems to have been tricked into believing that feminists think that all masculine traits are bad. They are actually listening to the enemy of their own self best interests.
I think there might be some overlap causing confusion. Being protective and problem solving are not inherently bad, but combine it with stuff like dominating, controling and not listening to others, and it can be very harmful. So a person might believe that they are just being protective but since they didn’t listen to the other person their actions turns to controling instead.
I was under the impression that toxic masculinity is the expectation that a “real man” MUST embody a specific set of personality traits, such as power-seeking, competitiveness, and a lack of emotion. Any man who failed to display these traits to a sufficient degree (or displayed the opposite traits) was to be shunned, considered to be lesser.
During my childhood, I was surrounded by people who thought this way, and it basically destroyed me on the inside. I considered myself to be fundamentally, irredeemably defective, and hid most of my real personality traits to avoid ridicule.
My biggest crime? I loved cats. Not for some “manly” reason like them being “cool”, but because they’re super adorable and I wanted a cute and cuddly pet to love and care for.
“I find it kind of funny, I find it kind of sad…”, what actually does people think toxic masculinity is? The one you’re replying to seems to have been tricked into believing that feminists think that all masculine traits are bad. They are actually listening to the enemy of their own self best interests.
I think there might be some overlap causing confusion. Being protective and problem solving are not inherently bad, but combine it with stuff like dominating, controling and not listening to others, and it can be very harmful. So a person might believe that they are just being protective but since they didn’t listen to the other person their actions turns to controling instead.
I was under the impression that toxic masculinity is the expectation that a “real man” MUST embody a specific set of personality traits, such as power-seeking, competitiveness, and a lack of emotion. Any man who failed to display these traits to a sufficient degree (or displayed the opposite traits) was to be shunned, considered to be lesser.
During my childhood, I was surrounded by people who thought this way, and it basically destroyed me on the inside. I considered myself to be fundamentally, irredeemably defective, and hid most of my real personality traits to avoid ridicule.
My biggest crime? I loved cats. Not for some “manly” reason like them being “cool”, but because they’re super adorable and I wanted a cute and cuddly pet to love and care for.