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  • elfpie@beehaw.orgtoChat@beehaw.orgOn Tone Policing
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    19 days ago

    I saw the same post and started writing something that went in a different direction, but that seems complementary. Basically, you don’t have to respond.

    I do believe you’re responsible for what you write, but you’re under no obligation to answer any and every kind of criticism that is thrown at you. You might have to read something that’s hard or hurtful in the comments, which is fine if they are trying to follow the recommendations listed above, it’s a process, but you don’t have to accept an attack to your personhood or an attack to what you wrote without any explanation.

    I understand the desire to make clarifications and being clearly comprehended, or defending oneself from attacks, but a direct response might be counterproductive. Say nothing, or go back and put amends to the original thoughts with an edit.

    Also, and this is for all the parts involved, the discussion is not going anywhere. It will not get drown out in a sea of comments, you can take your time and come back later. More importantly, you’ll likely see the same people around again. Take care of your community. Defend, understand, educate, be nice.




  • People don’t seem to grasp how terrible doxxing can be. It’s easy to distance yourself from the consequences when everything happens online and all is forgotten within a day or two. If you call the police to deal with a problem, you should expect violence. In a similar way, expecting to make people accountable when you sick an angry anonymous mob on them is foolish. Violence is the most likely result.






  • You say suicidal thoughts, which I believe you have, but you showed us your depressive thoughts. Some times, it’s not intellectual, it’s just one aspect of your biology you can’t will away. You might need medicine, you’ll definitely need to work on it without knowing if your efforts will get results.

    I saw in another comment you talking about the things you love. Choose one and really set aside some time to enjoy it. Create a period of total selfishness. Do something practical.

    Intellectually, to quiet the voices that are so negative and justify bad decisions, I suggest you question them, specially when they are absolute. For example, “there’s no time to dedicate to what I love”. Really? No time, zero? Is that the absolute truth? Try to be more truthful. Maybe the time you have is not enough (but again, really?), which doesn’t mean zero time generally. Just being honest about your situation can help change perspectives and stop you believing the lies you tell yourself.

    Do you enjoy watching videos? There are some professionals I regularly watch that usually help me see the directions I could go to improve myself. To tell the truth, I’m in a low right now and not being treated, but I wish I were.


  • Civil and high quality are two hammers educated people enjoy using to bash people without dieting their hands. The article address the fact they couldn’t verify the content of the discussions, but decided the format shows they are better than the ones in which cursing is prevalent.

    From my personal experience, I’d agree that trolls don’t invest in their online personas, usually. Getting online in the 90’s meant finding who I was, instead of transplanting my real identity to the internet. Without so much centralization, each one of us were a lot of different people expressing all our different sides in different places. Using the same user name everywhere would end up in nice surprises when friends from one place showed up in another, something that would put us in danger of persecution nowadays.









  • I’m from Brazil and a little confused. What I found is that people in the US pay for a software that simplify the process of filing taxes. Free options would be more difficult or inconvenient. But I also read it is already possible to file taxes for free, as people are eligible, which I can’t wrap my head around.

    Here, as fast as I can remember, the only software comes from the government, from the time of floppy disks (provided free of charge) and Java. You can always pay a company to do that for you, but it’s so simple for the majority that we are basically consenting with the use or validating the information they already had.