Not every state. This is Texas. I’m in California and my kid went to school with shoulder length hair that was half blue. My relatives in Texas kept asking what the school was doing about it. There’s nothing on the books about hair and the principal said it looked cool. Hair has always been a control issue in bible thumping communities, which I thankfully am no longer around.

Also non-cartel coyotes rest during the day. I lived in Nevada where coyotes are a given, but never in my life saw one during the day.

Holy shit. I had to turn it off. WTF.

My kid is learning to drive and I wanted to rent/get ahold of a manual to teach that too, but nothing doing. You can’t find one to rent and I’m not buying a whole car for a few weeks’ training.

I remember this! And not from the lemmy post. Thanks for the memory.

Say where it is out loud! That’s my stove trick–“THE STOVE IS OFF”. Yes, I have walked away from a lit burner before.

Gold. You have found gold.

…now on Lemmy

Por que no los dos?

All the ADHDers in here. :(

Same. Same.

Hormonal fluctuations have been shown to affect symptoms. You* can talk to your doctor about a small bump up in meds for when you are most affected. I can’t remember if it’s just before a period or during that symptoms get worse. I recommend tracking your period and making notes of when it’s worse for you. Menopause is crazy for many reasons, but defo for ADHD.

*Anyone who has a period.

👍

I know I do.

and it has Christoph Waltz

So far so welcoming/supportive. 👍

I got along just fine until college when I dropped out after the first year since I couldn’t coast by with great test skills and doing basic homework for high school…

Oh hell yeah. Honors student to failing out of my first year of college. Fuck. I went back years later, but that first time was a helluva wake up call.

noticed the same day

was able to persist at a non-fun task for an hour, like lolwut

…and that’ll be in my head for the next several hours. Perfection.

Ha. Grammar got me.

Warning: wall of text incoming

Schedules, bah!

I make GLORIOUS schedules. I don’t use them. The more time I spend making a schedule, the less time I will use it.

Calendars Yes, I did have invisible calendars too, but I finally found something that works for me!

I used to not use calendars until it hit me that my grandmother’s calendar was how she always remembered people’s birthdays. I mean, duh. So I started using a calendar. I tried digital–failure. I tried desk calendars–failure. I tried small calendar books for purses and spiral-bound planner calendars–failure. I tried normal calendars with too small boxes for each day–failure.

After years I started doing this:

• I go to Barnes and Noble in August. That’s when they have their largest selection of calendars. Find one you like, but my preference is to have big squares for every day.

  Here’s what mine looks like:

  

  When it folds open, half a month is on each side instead of having the top half be a picture of something. It comes with stickers and junk, but I don’t use them.

• Go to August and mark “Buy next year’s calendar”. The calendar doesn’t run out in August, but the supply of good calendars does.

• Put the calendar where you will see it multiple times per day. The Dutch are known to keep their calendars in the bathroom. That works. I’m American and I keep mine next to the fridge, because…well, I’ll see it many times per day. Shut up.

• Find a way to have a pencil or pen near the calendar at all times–clip, string, whatever.

• Mark everyone’s birthday. If a birthday falls within the first three days of the next month, mark it a week in advance so you don’t miss getting a card out in time (if you do cards).

• If you need to put something on the calendar and you aren’t near it, send yourself a text to do it. When you’re home and see the text, you know what to do. “Was man schreibt, bleibt” is a German saying that roughly translates to “what you write down, you remember.” The act of writing it down does help. Digital calendars on my phone aren’t helpful to me. If I need to know what my calendar looks like when I’m not home, I just take a pic of the month I need on my phone’s camera.

• When you get a new calendar, take your old calendar and mark everyone’s birthdays and other annual things you’d like to remember, like “sign up for summer camp” in March. Of course throughout the year, if something sounds cool or you forgot something you want to do in the future, make a note in the margins and mark the new calendar appropriately.

• Tell anyone who shares your household to use the calendar too, so you can remember if they’re going to an event (so you won’t schedule something then) and also, when they get used to it, maybe they can help you remember too (“Hey, are we taking X out for her birthday?” or “Do you have everything you need for Y?”)

• Sometimes I highlight a box if it’s really important or lasts a whole week (like a summer camp), but that’s something I tend to switch up every year.

Good luck. If you need me, I’ll be reading everyone else’s tips, ha ha.