This is a man who knows how to gling. He is glinging. Yesterday, he _____.

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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • Most of the stuff I highlighted about Phillip were one-off occurances that happened exactly once, but I think any one of the things I mentioned about him should have been my cue to run as far away from the group as possible. On a day-to-day basis, he clearly wanted to do what Jesus would do and be a giving, empathetic, nonjudgmental person who literally gave me the shirt off his back once and metaphorically did so five other times. Which is why I stuck around. 99% of the time he was one of the most stand-up guys I knew, and the remaining 1% of the time he drops a red flag the size of Texas.

    I think it’s also important to note that he was surrounded by LGBTQ+ people, and he chose this friend group. We lived in a pretty red part of my state. There’s lots of people in his area who share his worldview, and he’s chosing to hang out with us sinners. Why he did so will forever be beyond me. I think he’s just not being honest with himself, like most people. People aren’t logical critters.


  • My understanding is that he values civility above everything else, more than authentic personal expression, more than actually being a decent person. I guess nazi + civility-centered worldview = enlightened centrist behavior

    Important to note is that he’s holding these horrible beliefs while being surrounded by bisexuals, pansexuals, nonbinary people, underage drinkers and smokers, etc., and presumably he wants to keep those friends. Why, I do not know. People are almost never logical critters. I feel that his autism might be playing a part in this.


  • Quick explanation of the names:

    • Phillip Barker, better known as Muhammad Abd-al-Rahman Barker, was a linguist who was a professor of Urdu and South Asian Studies from 1958 to 1990, and produced Tékumel (Empire of the Petal Throne) which was one of the first 3rd-party D&D settings ever produced. It was widely regarded as being very respectful to the indigenous cultures it drew from. That being said, his Wikipedia page looks like this:

    • Dave Arneston co-authored the first edition of D&D. Consensus I’ve heard of him was that he was a passionate DM and a good person overall, but he was not great at following deadlines or making functional product. Gygax used B/X D&D to push him out of the company.

    • Emmett Roe…well, just Google him

    • Pablo Pineda was the first european with Down Syndrome to recieve a university degree (B.A. in Educational Psychology) and is also an award-winning actor.

    • Henry Cavendish was the natural philosopher who discovered hydrogen. He is commonly believed to be super autistic. Wikipedia says “He could speak to only one person at a time, and only if the person were known to him and male . . . He communicated with his female servants only by notes. By one account, Cavendish had a back staircase added to his house to avoid encountering his housekeeper, because he was especially shy of women.”

    • Amy Winehouse: I googled “celebrities that were disasters” and her name popped up. She died at 27 due to alcohol poisoning.

    • Theresa Barkley was a 19th century English dominatrix. I went down a list of historical dominatrixes and filtered out the ones known for positive personality traits, and she was what was left. She was best known for Inventing the Berkley Horse, a BDSM apparatus used to position the sub in an appropriately floggable position.








  • We have proof that kids have never paid attention in school. For example, in Novgorod around 1250 A.D. a six year old boy named Onfim (later called Anthemius of Novgorod) was supposedly practicing his writing and basic arithmetic. Much of what archeologists have found were doodles of him being a heroic knight The mighty horseman Onfim on his steed. who hunted down his teacher, who was a horrible monster Onfim and several other horsemen chase down the evil Writing Teacher. These were buried in a waste pile, where they were rediscovered by archeologists. They are a treasured part of Slavic history and there is now a statue of him in his hometown.








  • The main thing is that prom didn’t start to become big until the 1950s. This was a high water mark for conservatism in the U.S., and in order to go on any date at least one parent, usually the girl’s dad, had to be present I have been corrected that this is reductive. Chaperoning was still commonish in this time period, depending on your area, but the 50s dating scene was beginning to look somewhat similar to what we have today with a guy picking up a girl in his car to go somewhere. Dancing would have been an uncommon activity because of how “adult” it was seen to be, so for horny teens Homecoming and Prom were a big deal. The biggest thing you notice looking at the dances of this time period is that the dresses are relatively simple, because it really wasn’t that big of a deal back then. It was literally just a school dance, organized and overseen by the teachers and school staff.

    Then, those kids grew up, had kids of their own, started making movies, and on doing so impressed on the following generation that homecoming and prom were the most fun nights in all of high school. This created pressure to make your proms and homecomings be as cool as the ones your parents told you about. This led to a lot more effort being put in. Dresses got way more expensive, tuxes became pretty much mandatory, guys began doing elaborate prom-posals.

    This created a big economic opening in the market. Somebody needs to make colorful dresses for the girls and tuxes for the guys. The wedding industry immediately took over this area, and homecoming and prom became rush time for that industry. Somebody needs to play music. Back in the 50s they would hire bands, but by the 70s and 80 we started getting disc jockeys and now the party dj industry is fully enmeshed in high school dances. Then there’s the decorations, which became themeing, which feeds into the party industry.

    Now you have the cultural snowball rolling downhill, building up speed, slowly getting bigger. It is encouraged by a growing industry that advertises to teens how cool their prom will be if they just wear this dress, and then social media happened. Now teens are advertising prom to each other, and feeling they need to be better than that TikTok they saw earlier, so the social pressure to have the coolest prom ever is more ubiquitous that it has ever been.


  • The rituals started in the 1950s. At that time, in order to go on a date with someone, your parents had to chaperone you. It was the wisdom at the time. Prom and homecoming were the only exceptions, so it became a really big thing. Then those people grew up, impressed upon the next generation how homecoming and prom were the best times in high school, started making nostalgia movies about homecoming and prom. That created pressure to live up to this, girls started getting overly fancy dresses, guys started doing elaborate prom-posals, the wedding dress industry jumped in to fill the gap, and now it’s a whole capitalism-fest like Christmas and Valentine’s Day