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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • Having seen my mom, and now the mom of my ex, devolve into dangerous drivers, I will trust my kids on this. If they say I am not driving well, I will not drive. Luckily everything is nearby, I haven’t needed to drive much since we moved close to my work.

    Walking distance to hospital, doctor, restaurants, dentist, bank is online, driving has become a convenience not a need, thankfully.

    We need to give road tests every 5 years or so, to everyone who holds a driving license. My road test was literally more than 40 years ago, how do they even know I can still drive safely?



  • The environment. That’s really it, everything else is a lower priority to me, because fuck over the world and you have nothing. As far as what might be possible to do with laws and government actions, I would like to see oil taxed like a vice tax, money thrown towards clean energy & transportation and accounting rules changed to include all costs now “externalized”. So if you dump waste in a river, the cost of cleanup falls always entirely on the company that dumped, besides the penalties and jail time, if you are cutting down old trees, the cost is not just the planting of a young tree, but includes cost of time to grow it, but also just that these costs need to be in the prices of goods, as now there is distortion. Clean things should be cheaper not more expensive.



  • Can’t see the list but basing this on the comments - I have been enjoying the new Hard Quartet album and think you might like. Rock and roll, more or less.

    Janelle Monae, any of the first 3 albums in particular, but all of hers flow well.

    Run the Jewels, if they aren’t already in your list. Second album, but again, any.

    Absolutely love the new Fontaines DC album.


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    Oh my gosh, I have a spider story. For background, I grew up in Florida and have a near phobic fear of palmetto bugs.

    So one night I’m sleeping and jolt awake at that scuttling sound of palmetto legs on drywall. I throw on the light, terrified but see there is no palmetto bug, just a really big spider on the wall. I turned off the light and fell right back to sleep.







  • Hmm, yes if she does not masturbate I honestly think she might just not be that much into the physical pleasure, you may have to just take what you can get - even though you would be frustrated, she may not be. It’s hard for me to imagine, too! But if she enjoys the closeness and seeing you get off, your expectations may be getting in the way.

    Even if she gets frustrated, she will probably have to figure out herself what works. It’s really good she is not faking, don’t push her to the point she feels like that’s the answer.

    ETA: tight angle with her legs up if she is flexible, or kind of sideways so one of your legs is against her vulva (look up coital alignment technique) those positions with some amount of outside contact like that are very intense dual stimulation, and if you are yourself angled upward the tight angle with legs up will also hit those front areas inside where the nerves from the clitoris run upward.


  • What does she do when she is doing herself? And is she getting orgasm that way, and is she getting it with you in any way?

    If she can do direct clitoral stimulation for herself, it’s possible you are just too rough, a lot of guys are. But also possible that she’s just wired so that direct contact is unpleasant.

    It’s hard to recommend without more information but I would suggest a tight angle face to face, that she might be able to sort of grind on you while fucking, to get some vulva stimulation and the inside feeling, that might push her over. Also maybe try playing with her boobs while she’s on top.

    Mostly I think you are on the right track with the mental angle - engaging the mind, find out what she thinks about and use that, give up your ideas about every woman being wired the same.

    And Do Not Push her. Really listen to what she wants.



  • My kid with similar hair likes the Verb Ghost Oil. It’s too light for me but adds just a hint of weight and smoothness.

    My other suggestions to try are salt spray or a light wax, those can help you get the sort of piecey look.

    It’s also possible that it’s curly - often people with hair they think is straight and poofy have curly hair, in which case either rolling with it, styling it like curly hair, or heat styling to straighten it will work better.


  • I made it! Did equal parts amaretto, lemon, bourbon and it’s not sweet enough even for me. Honestly I would be happy to put it alone in little glasses for an after dinner sip, it’s very, very good. But mixed I am less impressed with it so far, though it may be my expectation and usual tactics not working. If this doesn’t put me under the table I’ll try later with much less lemon and no egg white just bourbon, this amaretto, a little lemon, and maybe a lemon twist.



  • My goodness this must be such an individual response because exercise is the only way I’ve been able to modify my weight downward, ever. Did fasting for health one year, 36 hours a week, no change in weight, did get lower cholesterol.

    But start walking to work instead of driving? Weight drops. Stop walking the dogs at night? Weight creeps back up. My activity level seems to be the most important variable in my weight. Except for stress, which I don’t recommend as a weight loss strategy.


  • For me:

    If it comes from exercise and I can eat what feels like enough, I don’t notice. Like, literally lost 30lb when I started Jazzercise after having my last kid and had no idea, thought I’d just ‘toned up’ and was confused I needed new clothes, I was underweight by the time I realized, because I was not eating enough to fund the workouts. Appetite did not adjust.

    If it comes from diet or fasting, I feel fine in the daytime but it is a migraine trigger. I feel so good going to bed kinda hungry but it makes wake up feeling crappy and also messes up my sleep.

    If it comes from anxiety or emotional upset, well, it feels better than eating (I get stress anorexia definitely cannot eat when upset).

    My husband said bulking, gaining weight and working out, was the best he has ever felt, physically.