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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I am a man and I absolutely have given other men compliments. Specifically their shirts if they’re a band I like and I’ve received those too. I am very happy when someone compliments my attire or hair.

    I think we should normalize giving each other compliments regardless of gender, as another user said. Of course it shouldn’t be like an exaggerated amount but it would be nice to prop each other up and boost all our confidences. I think that we could tell each other nice things more often. We could certainly be kinder to one another.




  • Working out. Either biking, walking, lifting weights, doing martial arts, etc. It doesn’t matter. In some of my lowest points if my life I started working out and it helped. It didn’t fix it but it really helped my mood improve. It also raises your self-esteem. I did a couple of years of BJJ and it really made me feel better about myself. Now I go to the gym and lift weights. Looking better and seeing the weights I can lift become heavier do a lot of me.

    Music. Pick up a guitar. Thomann sells really cheap guitars that are great for beginners. Learn some songs you love and play along with them. Just look up tabs online and go from there. Eventually, you’ll realize that you can use the instrument as a constructive channel to your emotions.

    Both (or even most) suggestions you’re going to hear about this topic take discipline. There is a reason for that. These things are rewarding proportional to the effort you put in. Seeing yourself improve at whatever you choose ultimately will only happen when you make the time and put in the effort. Do not be discouraged. The first few weeks are always hard but you can build good habits in a short time.