I didn’t mean for this post to cause a bunch of arguing in the comments =(

I thought this was just some gallows humor (e.g. “Everything’s lovely except that I have to fear for my safety all the time”) type of shitpost that sounded similar to comments I’ve heard from women irl a lot.

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    9 hours ago

    I made a reply to blind3rdeye where I mirrored some of your sentiments. I have a hard time finding mutual empathy with people. When anyone talks about the unique pain of belonging to certain groups I try my hardest to trust them. I do this because of how much dismissiveness there is of men’s issues.

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      I get that. I found myself on the side of vegans after a post mocked them for being a vegan while the nature they’re protecting is not, and comments then clowning on the vegans that showed up. “How do you know they’re vegan? They’ll tell you.” Kind of stuff. I’m not vegan but I really don’t like this kind of baiting.

      My comments were way better received then.

      I like what you wrote in the other comment, btw.

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      8 hours ago

      the thing is, nobody here is being dismissive of men’s issues, because this thread is not a conversation about men’s issues. men are coming in here and dismissing women’s issues.

      you guys never seem to talk about this on your own accord, but rather only when it’s to bring down women for talking about the realities they face. it makes it difficult to believe that any of you here sincerely care about what you claim to.

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        You are under a comment about my experience and feelings. I am a man. These are my feelings as a man. People are very publicly dismissing them. You can’t just banish injustices towards people you don’t want to think about away to somewhere else.

        E: that said a mod eventually will show up and do just that

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          yes, a comment about your experiences and feelings as a man under a thread about women’s experiences. i’m staying on the topic hand.

          i shouldn’t have to explain to you why going “okay but what about men” every time women talk about their experiences is problematic and dismissive.

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            7 hours ago

            My comment is about the woman blaming men for being scared to go out at night. It’s directly related to the topic at hand. I am dismissive not of this woman’s experience, that is being scared to go out at night, but of her claim that this is men’s fault. I think men are right to be pissed at being blamed for this.

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              Men are at fault though. Women aren’t the ones attacking women, men are. Almost entirely. Who are they therefore supposed to blame so that your fee-fees don’t get hurt? And for the last fucking time, “men” doesn’t mean all men including you.

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                6 hours ago

                If you’re not referring to men don’t say men. Women do attack women. It happens. My point is that it would be illogical and sexist to blame women for this.

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                  6 hours ago

                  What part of “men are at fault though” don’t you understand? I am referring to men. I’m not referring to ALL men. That’s the distinction. You’re being obtuse.

                  Women do not attack women NEARLY as much as men do. It is not equal at all. You are also being disingenuous.

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                    6 hours ago

                    Women are sluts

                    No not ALL women. I’m not a sexist jeez

                    This is what you sound like to me