It’s a lot of stuff so I’ll only mention a few points here and there. Others might want to check your link directly for context.

[CW: link contains frivolous usage of a word considerably more likely to trigger victims of sexual violence than a kiss in a comic.]

You’re inferring too much from a drawing. The kiss is unexpected for two reasons: it is not a romantic situation (it’s a sports game), and Shane not being an assertive person. Same sort of surprise as someone otherwise prudish using swear words. On being “limp”, seriously?

I need you to understand that posts like these can absolutely wreck someones day and pose a barrier to the site and lemmy as a whole. So best case: it’s ableist to put it up.

Everyone has a different trigger. You might triggering with your clothes, or your perfume, or your usage of a specific word unrelated to violence… that’s awful but it’s how things are.

It’s simply too far from any reasonable boundary that we could say “no, this is going too far, it’s too likely to trigger someone”, you know?

Because if we [people in general] stop doing and sharing every single thing that might potentially trigger someone, we’ll neither do nor share anything. Doubly so if we need to also take into account people who are oblivious to the context.

That includes your prescription not allowing women to express themselves, as it is the case of this comic. People across this thread have not mentioned the author, but here she is; so you got a woman representing the scene as positive, but apparently women can’t have their fun too, right.

[She’s also likely Latin American. It’s common knowledge that folks here are considerably more eager to touch each other. Unless I’m supposed to pretend that the only valid behaviour rules are the ones followed by Anglos.]

Secondly: the fact that your first line of defense is “it’s just a game” makes me want to shoot you. It’s just a comment.

I’m highlighting this because it’s an actually good argument. If this was indeed a piece of content encouraging sexual abuse (it is not, but let’s pretend that it is), “it’s just a game” would not be a valid defence.

Thirdly: Shane being a depressed alcoholic does not give him a pass to SA people?? And if he’s been drinking even though he’s an alcoholic all the more reason to step out of the situation. How is pointing out that this is not just a comic about SA but about an alcoholic relapsing and then SA’ing helping your argument? “oh he’s been down lately, lets let this one slide”? [REDACTED]

You were so fucking close to convince me that you actually care about victims of sexual abuse being triggered by content on the internet. So close.

Until you posted the part that I’ve redacted off, containing a word that is considerably more likely to trigger them than a kiss in a comic. Rules for thee, but not for me???

The asterisk does nothing by the way.

Famously in stardew valley you aren’t dating until after the ten heart event.

That is blatantly false. Eight hearts is when you start dating; ten hearts is when your relationship is solid enough that you can safely ask the person in marriage.

Props for actually discussing this, unlike most HB kids who hopped into this thread just to have fun. (…I kind of had my fun with them too.)

Well, without the proper context it’s hard to interpret things correctly, indeed. And yet it’s what we (people in general) should do, to avoid being unfair. Doubly so when we’re in a position to dictate what others should/shouldn’t share, like the admins of an instance are. [EDIT: it’s what we should do = interpret things correctly.]

I hope the encounter in stardew valley is different enough not to count as SA

If you’re in the mood, give this link a check. It’s the whole 3min scene, straight from the game. Just keep in mind that, as I mentioned before, the player avatar and Shane (purple hair guy) are already dating.