• BambiDiego@lemmy.world
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    6 hours ago

    The question isn’t sexist, it’s emotionally driven, and dismissing it outright is narrow minded. That is what I think is dangerous.

    The truth is the question reveals that to most women asked the question, men are unpredictable, and women have to navigate the world that way.

    A bear is a bear, it’s always going to do what it does, and you can work around that. Leave it alone and it will leave you alone, even if you have to work hard to avoid it. If you disturb it, it will kill you. It’s predictable.

    Men on the other hand are very likely to respect women, maybe even work together. However, there is the small, small, SMALL chance that they will be a terrible person. They could attack, abuse, sexually assault, straight up rape, or even kill the woman; or they could do a disgusting combination of those.

    The true root of the question isn’t “do you think a random man is more dangerous than a wild animal?” Of course not.

    The real question being put on a social scale is “what’s more predictably dangerous, a random man, or a wild animal?” And the fact that women almost unanimously have the same answer should be commentary enough on how they have to live their lives.

    • CaptPretentious@lemmy.world
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      14 minutes ago

      Here’s a bear, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9G1aHkLHQ2I just leave it alone and it’ll leave you alone is incorrect. And dangerous advice. Bears are unpredictable wild animals.

      men are unpredictable

      So women, are exempt, women are absolutely predictable? Cool. Totally NOT sexist. Also, hot take, but what’s your stand on trans-men/women?.. Are they predicable or not?

      You also seem to imply that women aren’t likely to abuse, sexually assault, straight up rape, or even kill ? Shit, i must have had bad luck, because I’ve been physically assaulted by most of the women I’ve dated, raped by one, and I’ve known countless women who’d joke directly to me “if he gets hard, he wants it… can’t rape the willing”. Cool, good to know I’ve just had bad luck…

      And sorry, but people asked a question on the internet, where people chase trends and fades like mad… that’s the data source. Unreliable.

      It’s sexist. I’ve proven, right there it’s sexist. Potentially, transphobic. It’s wrapped in false information, a false narrative. And then twisted at the end to try to sound like it’s not, and it comes very much across like far-right PR spin.

    • cassie 🐺@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      2 hours ago

      Best description of this I’ve read, thank you. It’s not a question about men directly, it’s a question about how women have to navigate a world with a small percentage of men that will hurt them given the opportunity.

      • BambiDiego@lemmy.world
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        2 hours ago

        Tbf a friend had to explain it to me, when the debate went viral at first I was mainly confused. I’m sure when I was younger I would have been one of the men with delicate egos that would find it irrational to not choose a man. It’s actually more thought out and rational when women say bear.