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    3 months ago

    No it’s not. “Hey, I really like you, but you’ve had too much to drink and this wouldn’t be right. If you feel this way tomorrow, let me know,” is a perfectly acceptable answer. Hell, I’ve given that answer before. It’s certainly not less tactful than, “You have a boyfriend and what you’re doing is wrong.” And yeah, cheating on your boyfriend is bad, but not as bad as rape, which this would have been.

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      3 months ago

      Keep in mind, you’re telling this to a blackout horny drunk person. In honesty, it doesn’t matter what you actually say.

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        3 months ago

        OK, so if it doesn’t matter what he said, why lie? You’re kinda invalidating your initial point here.

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          3 months ago

          Well, okay, the drunk person will still react to what you say; they just won’t remember. Having a gracious exit to the situation is preferable to, say, “OH MY GOD THERE’S AN AXE MURDERER BEHIND YOU” and running away when they turn around.

          I began with ‘have some tact’ after all.