• ReallyActuallyFrankenstein@lemmynsfw.com
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    5 months ago

    Yup, dated someone with BPD. I ended the romantic relationship when I couldn’t take the drama, tried to stay friends because I honestly worried about her and wanted to provide support.

    Ended the friendship after the second time she called and held me hostage on the phone for hours, telling me if I hung up or didn’t agree to date again, she’d kill herself.

    She texted me for the next 8 months with constantly changing numbers calling me terrible things, sometimes hundreds of messages a day.

    Messed me up. Would not recommend.

    • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      amen. i had a relationship i ended 6 years ago because of lying. she stalked me for months afterward while she was already engaged to another guy… it was incredibly f’ed up and i feel awful for that poor dude. i ended up having to delete all my socials before she finally gave up.

      I am super glad I didn’t marry her. despite her wanting to marry me. I knew something was ‘off’.

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        5 months ago

        A man my ex-wife dated after I divorced her contacted me on Facebook once, calling her a “horrible psychopath”. Apparently he knew my name because she had told him awful things about me. I feel really sorry for him, but I also feel validated in a sense. I get a nagging thought sometimes that I could have prevented the failure of my marriage and made the relationship work somehow. (I don’t miss my ex at all but I’m ashamed of being divorced.) Knowing that another guy also had the experience I did with her reassures me that it really wasn’t my fault.