• Banana@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    I’m the same way, I’m autistic and assume everyone else also doesn’t get subtext and social cues so I just say what I mean and honestly, when they say 'tism rizz, it just means not being afraid of embarrassment or rejection.

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      5 months ago

      I don’t know if I’m autistic but I’ve always functioned this way too. I can’t understand subtext. Things have to be spelled out for me, I never understood why communication shouldn’t simply be as clear as it can be. Experience gave me some clues, though, so I can do the translation myself in some (most?) cases, but I feel it’s never going to be intuitive at all.

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        5 months ago

        Yeah the only reason I can catch it is years of studying how other people communicate, but I’ve basically stopped masking in social situations at this point in my life. I think a lot of folks find it refreshing when you communicate directly

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          5 months ago

          This feels good to read. I’m at the point where I reduce the masking gradually, and I find it relaxing. I also came to realize how taxing it was… I think I can handle being different now, with all that entails