• secondaccountlemmy@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    SKL… yung mga seminar before wedding dito sa atin ang family planning model is GOD FFS. I dont think Im ready to raise a child pero tangina yung iba apat na and they are barely on minimum wage di ko alam pano naiisip ng ibang tao na kaya na nila ng ganyang responsibilidad with that amount of money.

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      1 year ago

      May isa kami pre-wedding seminar na inattendan that was 8am-5pm. I was so sleepy the entire time and my attention was piqued momentarily by a couple who actually had an interesting story to tell. Namatay daw panganay nila na anak at nasunugan ng bahay and I was really looking forward to hear them explain how they were able to recover, and the wife just said “awa ng diyos nakaraos kami” and I suddenly went flaccid.

      Pero in fairness, nakakatawa mga ibang pari. Some of them understand the irony of being celibates yet being asked to give advice on family but they do it anyway kasi they committed to it. I can at least respect that.

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      1 year ago

      Ang ibig mo bang sabihin, walang karapatan bumubo ng pamilya yung mga walang resources para bumuhay sa pamilya? Naniniwala ka ba sa eugenics?

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        1 year ago

        Im not saying it’s not their right but it is totally irresponsible. Medyo malayo naman na yung eugenics. You are in your right to do what you want so long as you dont hurt people in the process. This does not have an immediate effect but irresponsibly having children just hurts everyone involved.

        Raising a child should be treated as a privelege not a right.

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          Alam ko naman na di mo sasabihin na walang silang karapatan. I was just giving you a chance to rethink and maybe place the blame somewhere else than escape-goating people who weren’t given access to learn your sense of propriety.

          I’m not saying may mali kang sinabi. Yan natutunan mo eh. Yan din view ko dati. It’s just an easy thing to say. No need suriin yung sitwasyon. Basta may masisi lang, but it won’t help them dahil irresponsible na tingin sa kanila.

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        1 year ago

        Keeping in context with the student’s speech…

        “Ensuring financial stability before having a child will provide them with the opportunities and resources they deserve."

        “It will alleviate some of the struggles and allow you to focus on creating precious memories together."

        Eto yung nakita ko na punto ng nireplyan mo. Pwede naman bumuo ng pamilya yung kapos sa resources, pero isipin mo naman yung consequence.

        Sabi nga sa meme life is good but it can be better.

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          1 year ago

          While that may be true, I still think kulang or maybe problematic yung idea. I still think ensuring that the child is part of a just society is better than just ensuring financial stability. Dun sa isa ko nireply kanina. May kasabihan nga tayong, “It takes a village to raise the roof.”