“b-but bears are actually dangerous!” Shut the hell up.

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    6 months ago

    Downvoted not because it isn’t true, but because they aren’t automatically mutually exclusive and because it is an unnecessary jab at half of the human species. Why are we paying attention to divisive bullshit instead of focusing on things that actually have the potential to help?

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          Purely personal speculation here, I haven’t done any hard reading on the subject:

          When you say “women’s safety is more important than men’s feelings”

          What you mean is “women’s feelings is more important than men’s feelings”

          Well say no more!

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            Oo! Oo! Are we doing reductionism??

            We need different methods to reach people who either aren’t interested in listening, or who don’t think what they’re doing is “bad”. This will require a lot of work and research, but the first step is acknowledging that the current efforts are not helping.

            Let’s say more about this!!

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          Sees question mark

          Uh oh. Sorry dude. Downvoted for using the forbidden punctuation. Them’s tha rules…

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      In reality, it’s not attacking half the human species. It’s actually attacking people who perpetrate SA, and other people who cheerlead for them. One problem is that many men react just the way you reacted. Instead of saying “let’s solve this problem”, you say “quit being so divisive”. Unfortunately, those are your values.

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        “I realized men are evil, masculinity is toxic, these are statements of truth and the only ones who deny this shit are cis men themselves.” - CheesyCheese1 This thread

        ☝️ Top comment when i got here. This issue brings out as many misandrists as it does misogynists.

        Even my gf who wasn’t aware of this meme picked the bear vs a random man when i asked her, so obviously there is a problem. But in reality i don’t give a shit if some rando woman would prefer a bear over me in the woods, whatever makes her feel safer i guess. I do care about being tarred with the rape brush though, and this topic is being used to attack all men rather than just the problem ones.

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        I support sexual assualt because I think associating all men with sexual assault is divisive? Eat shit and die.

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      Because the solution to women getting assaulted is to make men think about their actions. The post wasn’t anymore divisive than the average black twitter meme. It was a simple tongue in cheek piece about how women have the impossible task of figuring out if a man is going to be their life partner or their rapist & murderer.

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        “Hey, would you rather be alone with a bear or a man?”
        “A bear. And you should think about what you’ve done.” "… Huh? "

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        to make men think about their actions

        Do you not understand that, as a very straight man, I’ve never once even thought about hurting a woman?

        It’s absolutely divisive. Stop.

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            Ah yes, let me open myself up to physical violence because I’m a man and that’s my place in the world.

            Shut the fuck up

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                Are you aware that, as a man, I still have the right to protect myself?

                God, go fuck yourself you troglodyte.

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          I’ve never once even thought about hurting a woman?

          then you’d know it’s not about you. I don’t think women want to potentially be mauled to death by the bear, it’s simply preferable to the horrible shit men do to women with astonishing regularity. kidnapped and raped to death, or kidnapped and raped for decades.

          do you need links, to show how unfortunately regular this kind of thing is? because they’ll turn your fucking stomach. just because you’re ignorant about how often it happens doesn’t mean you should take it personally when women make a logical choice. they’re safer with the bear. You’ve never thought about hurting a woman, that’s great, but it doesn’t do shit for the women who have had this shit done to them by men for the history of the species.

          It’s absolutely divisive. Stop.

          oooOoh poor boy, it hurts your feelings huh? get over yourself.

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        Imo this doesn’t impact the men who would do such a thing in the slightest. You’re just making the ones who have empathy feel bad, those who would rape are just getting their egos stoked by this fad: “Look at me, I’m more dangerous than a bear! That means I’m badass”

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          The problem is a large portion of rape is not done by serial rapists who rapes every chance they get, it’s done by average dudes once or twice when an opportunity arrives. Most rape cases involve someone known to the victim.

          Rape culture (as awkward and taboo of a phrase as it as) is a real thing that this bear analogy is pointing to. You may not have anything to examine in yourself that is the result of that culture but a metric fuck-ton of men do have internalized rape cultural aspects that need to be examined and extracted. The fact that so many women picked the bear is a testament to how pervasive that culture is, at least in their eyes.

          The point isn’t to stoke the egos of the serial rapists with no empathy, it’s to use empathy to make the “average-Joe” rapist examine his internal biases before they turn into an actual rape.