Like it’s actually fun. A few folks at work know I broke up with my girlfriend of some time recently. When I later asked them to let me know if they know anyone nice to set me up with, I always use gender-neutral language. But every single one pretty much assumes women only, and frankly I’m okay with that. Everyone doesn’t need to know everything. If they ever asked, I’ll tell them.

However, the married gay guy made sure to ask me, “are you into girls, guys,…?” and people I felt so touched and seen that someone didn’t just assume. He says his mind is tingling with ideas, and I’m sure if he and his husband make any intros they’ll be great.

Finally, I totally have a work crush on a guy, and I feel so stupid about it. My work crush at my last company was also a smaller guy who kept it tight, which is a funny theme. This time though I’m pretty sure he’s gay, based on a few different things including a pretty sexy insta. I just want to hold him and carry him around, and now I feel super weird when I see him or make eye contact. Ha here I am almost 40 and this guy still has me horned up like a teenager. Maybe one day I’ll build up the courage to say something to him. Non work dating and hookups are so much easier though!

Anyway yeah, basically being in the closet at work is…fun!

  • Lando_@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I actually kind of enjoy being secretly Bi at work too. It’s a little like being undercover on some kind of elite operation except the mission is just to confuse your coworkers.

    I work with a lesbian couple (one works in my department, the other in another department) and with the one I work with directly, I made a little rainbow out of pushpins on her divider one day then a week or so later put one on mine, with my only explanation being that “it looks cute”

    I have a husband so that kind of squashes most opportunities for speculation but I also have fun coloured hair (which I got when I ‘came out’ to myself about a year ago) so the question is “am I a ditzy ally? Or a secret gay living in the shadows?” Who can really say?