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    8 months ago

    It’s tied but it’s different. A lot of third+ generation immigrants have the same customs as locals, and you wouldn’t tell them apart if not for physical traits, for example.

    It’s also weird how stuff that used to be shamed about turned to reasons of pride. We (as in, non-racist people) realized shaming people for their hair is stupid, why would being proud of it not be just as stupid?

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      It’s not weird at all. If one race has systematically tried to beat you down throughout history and convince you that your race and culture are inferior, there’s all the reason in the world to reclaim respect for all that your people almost lost, and tell that race to fuck off if they don’t like it, and be proud of it. Gay pride isn’t race based, but it’s definitely a similar thing from a different direction. It sounds like you need to spend significant time sitting and talking with people of cultures that have been through it.

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        8 months ago

        It’s correct to demand equality and apologies for what happened in the past, but beyond it isn’t that just “pride” in being/having been discriminated?

        I would love to talk more about this with people who are directly involved in it, but even then, races/sexualities are not a monolith and that person I spoke to might have a completely different opinion from the rest. Plus I feel like you need to be very intimate with someone to have that kind of talk, so it’s not easy at all. I also comment my opinions on the internet because it’s a simple way of finding people who disagree and might give you a different point of view.

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          isn’t that just “pride” in being/having been discriminated?

          No. I can’t imagine there’s a single person who has ever felt legitimately proud about being discriminated against in a manner you suggest.

          Proud of continuing the traditions of one’s ancestors so they aren’t permanently lost to historic racism or diluted in the modern melting pot, via artistic expression, etc, yes.

          You still have plenty of time to talk to people and change your viewpoint.

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            No. I can’t imagine there’s a single person who has ever felt legitimately proud about being discriminated against in a manner you suggest.

            Sure, I didn’t think that’s what they mean, but that’s what it feels like. If it’s not the same as “being proud of your culture”, what’s the other difference?

            Proud of continuing the traditions of one’s ancestors so they aren’t permanently lost to historic racism or diluted in the modern melting pot, via artistic expression, etc, yes.

            But again, that’s culture. Isn’t it better to say you’re proud of what you do, instead of what you are?

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              I think I’ve said enough already. It feels like you’re just pushing an agenda instead of trying to understand. Which, oddly enough, is historically how some of all this came about to begin with.

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                I’m honestly trying to look at stuff from the most neutral stance possible, but I guess being white in a region with 96% white people is bound to give me some bias, I’m sorry if that’s how I came off as.

                That’s also why talking about this with someone I’m not intimate with is hard, they might feel like I have bad intentions and cut the discussion altogether.

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                  Well, for the first time, a certain group of white people feel threatened that they’re the ones being erased now, despite that being totally untrue, so those people are playing a victim card and trying to claim the same level of erasure now that other races actually experienced as minorities in the past under a white majority. And it isn’t working out well, because the claim is artificial, and a great deal of the white culture that has “been lost” is simply not being in a position of power over other races or getting preferential treatment for opportunities. That’s what all the “white pride” nonsense is about, something that they shouldn’t be proud about to begin with. It’s not the same thing. Meanwhile other races have that history of actually being oppressed, so the concept of racial pride and preserving their racial ties and culture is entirely different for them.

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                    But then again, isn’t the difference only that a group has been oppressed and the other hasn’t?

                    I don’t really get this concept of “racial pride”. Alliance, brotherhood, any kind of cooperation between people who face the same struggles is clearly going to be stronger between groups who faced more hardships, but I feel like being “proud” of your skin color is just pointless.

                    Another commenter brought the example of Candace Owens, she’s black, but considering her actions does that mean anything at all?

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        That’s different though, the point of gay pride is recognising that your value in society and your person ought to be respected, against a larger imposing force or hivemind so to speak, just like black pride, etc, and valuing your open expression of pride, closeted queers could just as easily argue that being in the closet is about valuing your own person on an internal level rather than how others may expect you to express yourself - ie, you may value yourself in a way different from how society does. Just like how some sex workers view themselves as tools, not sex toys but rather as healers and value themselves as such, once you dig deep down on all this, you’ll realise that gay pride is as much a “reaction” of the person to society as being closeted would be, one is preferable to individualist cultures, the other is more conformist, either way you pick your poison.

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            That’s not the point of the comment I made nor is it really a response that actually addresses the point I made, would you like to try again?

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      People who unironically feel conflicted about being proud of overcoming or experiencing XYZ, e.g. taking a big dump or something as simple as eating an extra large McDonald’s double junior whopper, would like to dispute that pride is more often than not understanding that being ashamed of something is giving away your agency, by automatically saying, that was bad, the end, whereas being prideful at least gives you opportunity to reflect on the value of the experience itself rather than to simply paint it as inherently good or bad.