• Snowclone@lemmy.world
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    I’ve had exactly one partner that was with me as an interracial kink. And it was REALLY creepy. Didn’t like it at all. I ask about family a lot to flush that out, if ‘‘my dad would be so pissed if they knew I was dating you’’ pops up. I’m out. It’s a terrible feeling. The ‘‘this doesn’t matter because it happens to everyone’’ logic is deeply flawed. This isn’t an equation, mutual problems don’t invalidate eachother, it just sucks when you realize you’re experiencing it and you never want to deal with it again.

    Just in case anyone cares, I’m not an Asian woman, I’m a Hispanic man, I relate to the comic, I don’t think it’s invalid because it also has happened to me.

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        It’s not about the dad, it’s about the prospective mate thinking it’s noteworthy. They could say that and then their dad doesn’t give even a little bit of a shit about it.

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          It’s not about the dad, it’s about the prospective mate thinking it’s noteworthy.

          to be clear… prospective mate thinking what is noteworthy?

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            The problem is that she’s interested because his ethnicity is taboo (her dad would flip), not because of who he is as a person.

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              I ask about family a lot to flush that out, if ‘‘my dad would be so pissed if they knew I was dating you’’ pops up. I’m out.

              that doesn’t necessarily mean that “she’s interested because his ethnicity is taboo”. I’ve heard that same phrase countless times, which made me write my previous comment. “She” may be saying the exact same thing without her participating in your taboo/fetish game. Many “couples” from different backgrounds have to go through this with a certain dad or mom or uncle or gran or or or

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                You know, for a min I thought you were just a very ignorant person, but after reading your multiple intentional bad tasks, I’m sure you just an asshole.

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                  when expression of disagreement is called “asshole”, i can be. I disagree with what’s written in the above comment.

                  Do you live in a world where everybody thinks the same way?

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        I can’t even imagine needing this explained to me. Probably like you likely can’t imagine what’s it’s like to be the ‘other’ society deems outside of the ‘normal’.

        So what are we talking about in this thread. Do you know? We’re talking about being fetishized by your race, ethnicity, what have you. How do you identify someone interested in a kink they want to explore and not interested in YOU. What would identify that situation for you?

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          why do you start by assuming that i need to “imagine what’s it’s like to be the ‘other’ society deems outside of the ‘normal’”?

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            It’s the way you ask questions thar require you to fail to understand what’s being discussed in the first place. That’s why.

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              i disagree with what you wrote, you prefer to focus on what i may or may not be. Maybe it’s the same approach that makes you misjudge people in your personal relations.

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                Hi, you’re the person who didn’t want to talk about the subject of the thread or the subject of my comment, but INSTEAD, you wanted to discuss why I’m not nice enough for you when you made dumb replies in bad faith. Remember that? I’m not reading anything you’re writing either, but as long as up keep dumping your diarrhea here, I’ll do you the courtesy of reminding you that you are the person who decided to go off on your pretend personal feelings instead of anything on topic. You little weirdo.

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                  I ask about family a lot to flush that out, if ‘‘my dad would be so pissed if they knew I was dating you’’ pops up. I’m out.

                  keep it to the subject. 👆 This is what i commented on.