There’s a polyamory comm although I dunno if it’s still around. I should get back to trying to post there if it is.
Anyway the only ethical way to do is it to really not, in my opinion.
Read some books like more than 2 or polysecure, go to couples counseling, and then decide to open your relationship. At which point use apps like feeld (and be very open and clear about what you’re looking for), go to munches or other community polyamory or non monogamy events, make community with other people who also do ethical non monogamy…and once you’ve done all that you’re probably ready to ethically unicorn hunt. And even then you’ll still probably fuck it up.
Anyway open to any questions about this. I am an experienced polyamorous person who has pretty much done it all. I’d share more credentials but I don’t want to doxx myself. I am not an expert but I know a lot and have a lot of community polyamorous experience.
I will also say if you’re a unicorn looking to be hunted this is much easier unless you’re a straight cis dude. If you’re queer of any gender or a cis straight woman it’s much easier…just go to events by yourself and every creepy couple in the room will find you. Ignore them and go talk to the friendly looking people who are just there to chill and hang out. It’ll be a much better experience.
If you’re queer pretty much avoid straight events and just find queer events. The straights are absolutely not okay so don’t waste your time.
There’s a polyamory comm although I dunno if it’s still around. I should get back to trying to post there if it is.
Anyway the only ethical way to do is it to really not, in my opinion.
Read some books like more than 2 or polysecure, go to couples counseling, and then decide to open your relationship. At which point use apps like feeld (and be very open and clear about what you’re looking for), go to munches or other community polyamory or non monogamy events, make community with other people who also do ethical non monogamy…and once you’ve done all that you’re probably ready to ethically unicorn hunt. And even then you’ll still probably fuck it up.
Anyway open to any questions about this. I am an experienced polyamorous person who has pretty much done it all. I’d share more credentials but I don’t want to doxx myself. I am not an expert but I know a lot and have a lot of community polyamorous experience.
I will also say if you’re a unicorn looking to be hunted this is much easier unless you’re a straight cis dude. If you’re queer of any gender or a cis straight woman it’s much easier…just go to events by yourself and every creepy couple in the room will find you. Ignore them and go talk to the friendly looking people who are just there to chill and hang out. It’ll be a much better experience.
If you’re queer pretty much avoid straight events and just find queer events. The straights are absolutely not okay so don’t waste your time.
Infamousblt in here with great advice again.
Also yes the !polyamory@hexbear.net comm is still here